發掘你的情緒智商 以瞭解如何幫助你愛的生活

   Find Out Your Emotional IQ + How It Can Help Your Love Life      Gabrielle Gresge     

  From BRIT+Co 
  By :
GABRIELLE GRESGE ON JULY 7, 2016

 

Whether you’re trying to make an open relationship work, vowing to stop comparing yourself to others on social media or looking for a boo who’s your financial soulmate, there are tons of specific ways to take your relationship status on Facebook from “in a relationship” to “in a really freaking awesome relationship.” One of these ways is to find out your emotional intelligence, a term coined in a study by Dr. John D. Mayer.

無論試圖與人處在哪一種關係,由John D.邁爾博士創造的一項研究運用特殊的方法發掘情緒智商
讓關係變得更棒。

 

eq3

  
   

HOW TO TELL IF YOU’RE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT

    如何辨識你的情緒智商

According to the study, emotional IQ is “the capacity to reason about emotions and emotional information, and of emotions to enhance thought.” Basically, it’s the ability to solve emotion-related problems.

Measuring emotional intelligence is similar to measuring academic intelligence. Contributors to the study used a combination of problem-solving and ability problems to quantify how emotional intelligence manifests itself in people — and their findings show that emotional IQ is actually correlated to academic intelligence. Wondering how you measure up? Scroll on for more on Dr. Mayer’s four-branch model.

根據研究,情緒智商“是思考情緒和情感信息和情感,提升思維的才能。”基本上,這是解決情緒有關
的問題的能力。

測量情商類似於測量學術智商。投稿研究中使用- 解決問題和能力問題的綜合量化智能如何從感性的人
表現出來 – 他們的調查結果顯示,情緒智商其實和學術智商是相關的。想知道你是如何衡量呢?
可多參閱關於邁爾博士的四個模型。

eq

 

   4 BRANCHES OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

4個情緒智商分部

1. Perceiving emotion. Do you have a knack for knowing how someone is feeling just by his or her facial expression? If so, you’re probably great at perceiving emotion, which, according to the study, is a “crucial starting point for more advanced understanding of emotions.”

2. Using emotions to facilitate thought. Humans subconsciously respond emotionally to many stimuli — and some humans are particularly good at translating that response into cognitive thought. For example, if someone at work makes an emotionally intelligent person angry, that person might calmly analyze their anger and facilitate a productive discussion with their coworker.

3. Understanding emotions. Emotions can be hard to wrap your mind around at times. However, people with a high emotional IQ can not only identify what emotion they’re feeling, but can also recognize the actions they’ve taken or are thinking about that are influenced by that emotion. This skill will keep you from doing anything too nutty.

4. Managing emotions. Since emotions are inherently involuntary, they’re also inherently hard to control. While we’ll never have complete agency over our emotions, the ability to create an “emotional comfort zone” can lead to self-regulation, which is essentially the ability to manage your own feelings.

1.感知情緒。你知道有人只看面部表情就可感覺訣竅?如果是這樣,你可能在情感感知方面有天分,而根據這項研究,“是更深入了解情感至關重要的出發點。”

2.用情緒來促進思想。人類下意識對許多刺激回應情感 – 有些人善於把這回應轉換成認知思維。例如,如果某人在工作中讓一位具情緒智商的人生氣,那個人可能會冷靜地分析自己的憤怒,並與他們的同事促成一個具成效的討論。

3.理解情緒。情感有時很難來包覆住思緒。然而,人們具有高度情緒智商不僅能識別他們的情感感受,而且還能夠辯別他們已經採取或正在考量這種情緒影響了行動。這個技能將讓你做任何事情很狂熱。

4.管理情緒。由於情緒本質上是不由自主的,他們本身還難以控制。雖然我們永遠不能主宰我們的情緒,能否創造一個“情感安樂窩”可導致自我調節,這實質上是管理自己感受的能力。

 

eq2

 

    WHY EMOTIONAL IQ MATTERS IN RELATIONSHIPS

Emotional intelligence plays a HUGE role in the way we relate to others. Although it affects just about everyone you interact with, those in your innermost circles — such as family, friends and your S.O. — reap most of the positive and negative energy when it comes to how you manage your emotions.

According to the study, people with high levels of emotional intelligence are “particularly good at establishing positive social relationships with others, and avoiding conflicts, fights and other social altercations. They’re particularly good at understanding psychologically healthy living and avoiding such problems as drugs and drug abuse.”

But whether you’re high or low on the emotional IQ scale, the study points out that knowing  your emotional intelligence is even more important than having a lot of it. Know thyself (and thy emotions). It’s definitely something to think about next time you get really upset at your boss or boo.

 

(中文非譯文)

Has your emotional IQ affected your relationships? Let us know @BritandCo!

(Photos via Getty)

廣告

發表迴響

在下方填入你的資料或按右方圖示以社群網站登入:

WordPress.com Logo

您的留言將使用 WordPress.com 帳號。 登出 / 變更 )

Twitter picture

您的留言將使用 Twitter 帳號。 登出 / 變更 )

Facebook照片

您的留言將使用 Facebook 帳號。 登出 / 變更 )

Google+ photo

您的留言將使用 Google+ 帳號。 登出 / 變更 )

連結到 %s