Find Out Your Emotional IQ + How It Can Help Your Love Life
By :GABRIELLE GRESGE ON JULY 7, 2016
Whether you’re trying to make an open relationship work, vowing to stop comparing yourself to others on social media or looking for a boo who’s your financial soulmate, there are tons of specific ways to take your relationship status on Facebook from “in a relationship” to “in a really freaking awesome relationship.” One of these ways is to find out your emotional intelligence, a term coined in a study by Dr. John D. Mayer.
HOW TO TELL IF YOU’RE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT
According to the study, emotional IQ is “the capacity to reason about emotions and emotional information, and of emotions to enhance thought.” Basically, it’s the ability to solve emotion-related problems.
Measuring emotional intelligence is similar to measuring academic intelligence. Contributors to the study used a combination of problem-solving and ability problems to quantify how emotional intelligence manifests itself in people — and their findings show that emotional IQ is actually correlated to academic intelligence. Wondering how you measure up? Scroll on for more on Dr. Mayer’s four-branch model.
表現出來 – 他們的調查結果顯示，情緒智商其實和學術智商是相關的。想知道你是如何衡量呢？
4 BRANCHES OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
1. Perceiving emotion. Do you have a knack for knowing how someone is feeling just by his or her facial expression? If so, you’re probably great at perceiving emotion, which, according to the study, is a “crucial starting point for more advanced understanding of emotions.”
2. Using emotions to facilitate thought. Humans subconsciously respond emotionally to many stimuli — and some humans are particularly good at translating that response into cognitive thought. For example, if someone at work makes an emotionally intelligent person angry, that person might calmly analyze their anger and facilitate a productive discussion with their coworker.
3. Understanding emotions. Emotions can be hard to wrap your mind around at times. However, people with a high emotional IQ can not only identify what emotion they’re feeling, but can also recognize the actions they’ve taken or are thinking about that are influenced by that emotion. This skill will keep you from doing anything too nutty.
4. Managing emotions. Since emotions are inherently involuntary, they’re also inherently hard to control. While we’ll never have complete agency over our emotions, the ability to create an “emotional comfort zone” can lead to self-regulation, which is essentially the ability to manage your own feelings.
2.用情緒來促進思想。人類下意識對許多刺激回應情感 – 有些人善於把這回應轉換成認知思維。例如，如果某人在工作中讓一位具情緒智商的人生氣，那個人可能會冷靜地分析自己的憤怒，並與他們的同事促成一個具成效的討論。
WHY EMOTIONAL IQ MATTERS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Emotional intelligence plays a HUGE role in the way we relate to others. Although it affects just about everyone you interact with, those in your innermost circles — such as family, friends and your S.O. — reap most of the positive and negative energy when it comes to how you manage your emotions.
According to the study, people with high levels of emotional intelligence are “particularly good at establishing positive social relationships with others, and avoiding conflicts, fights and other social altercations. They’re particularly good at understanding psychologically healthy living and avoiding such problems as drugs and drug abuse.”
But whether you’re high or low on the emotional IQ scale, the study points out that knowing your emotional intelligence is even more important than having a lot of it. Know thyself (and thy emotions). It’s definitely something to think about next time you get really upset at your boss or boo.
Has your emotional IQ affected your relationships? Let us know @BritandCo!
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